What does a surrogate do after she has delivered the baby? Initially she has to deal with the postpartum depression which is quite common and normal. A lot of factors influence the emotions of a surrogate mother. No doubt that the surrogate mothers feel happy when they give the baby to the intended parents but very few are aware about their feelings post that. Although there have been cases where the surrogates do not go through depressing moments. The most popular question that people often ask is that how the surrogate mother develops the heart to give up the baby she has given birth to. Throughout the phase of the surrogacy program she is surrounded by doctors and intended parents.

The surrogate mother knows that a lot of expectations are riding on her shoulder and she cannot manage to falter at any stage. With proper counseling sessions this state of mind can be converted into a state of pure happiness where instead of having any moment of distress, she can feel proud about her whole journey as a surrogate mother. It is very normal to feel a bout of sadness when the entire surrogacy program comes to en end because there will be definite feeling of emptiness when you give away the baby whom she have carried in her womb for nine months.

But the glimpse of joy in the faces of the intended parents takes away all the sadness, as a surrogate mother rejuvenates her belief in the statement that giving birth to a baby is god's gift to women, and she has taken a step further to utilize her gift for someone else. Many surrogate mothers have claimed that all of a sudden after the birth of a baby, they feel that what should be the next thing that they should do as for the past one year, all she has done was related to surrogacy. Her goal for one year was to give birth to a healthy baby and now that her goals have turned into reality, she feels the void in life, as immediately after the birth of the baby, she does not have any goals to cherish. It is advisable to a surrogate mother to plan out certain things which she would like to do once her role as a surrogate mother ends, so that she does not have to deal with any kind of depression.

After pregnancy, hormones play a crucial role in mood fluctuation of women. At times they feel like crying or feel depressed, due to the action of the hormones as during and after pregnancy a lot of changes takes place in the hormones of the body and it has a direct affect on the mood of a person. People around the surrogate mother should understand this fact and give her ample space to do things that would make her happy. Her family should provide her with all the support that she needs for being emotionally stable. If one hears the comments of a surrogate mother after pregnancy then most of them feel immense happiness at one moment, which is followed by moment of sadness as the job as a surrogate mother has reached the finishing line. Most often it is not the baby that they miss but the attention that has been showered on them, by the intended parents throughout the time of pregnancy. It is important for a surrogate mother to know these little details as when reaches the end of the surrogacy process, she is aware of the fact that the kind of feeling that she is experiencing happens with every surrogate mother.

The intended parents should also try to understand the emotions of a surrogate at this point of time. It is also very natural for the intended parents to be completely absorbed by the new born baby at their home, tending to the needs of a baby is also very time consuming. Taking care of a new born baby not only takes time, but it also drains out a lot of energy from a person which finally leaves him with little energy to give attention to other things around him. A surrogacy process for the intended parents marks the beginning of a new life whereas for the surrogate her dream of being a surrogate becomes complete, and she is left with no such similar dreams.

The intended parents should not forget the surrogate mother who helped them to bring the baby in this world and when the surrogate is going through a lean phase in her life emotionally then the intended parents should take a step forward and help her to understand that it is because of her contribution, which has brought a new lease of life. Although many intended parents do not want to keep any contact with the surrogate mother after the birth of the baby, as they think that it will lead to a lot of complications. Throughout the process of surrogacy, the intended parents and the surrogate mother should decided openly the amount of contact that they wish to keep after the baby is born, so that later on no confusion or complications takes place. If both the parties want to be more specific, then they should, mentions the details in the legal contract between the intended parent and the surrogate mother.

Being familiar about the emotional ups and downs after pregnancy helps the family of the surrogate mother as well. Because then they know that the mood swings is not because of choosing the path of surrogacy but because of the hormonal changes in the body and help her deal with such a situation. All a surrogate mother wants is a little appreciation from the people around her because of the dedication that she has portrayed in the surrogacy program. Appreciation coupled with care can give peace and happiness to the surrogate mother, which help her to get out of the doldrums which one feels after the end of the surrogacy.